Saturday, March 10, 2007
Hole in the Sky
Maybe you've already heard, but apparently anal sex among heterosexuals is becoming more commonplace. Gasp! I mean, they're even talking about it on MSNBC, where they called the steady increase a sure sign of the passing of lovemaking's last taboo. This most recent backside brouhaha can be traced to a recent report from the Center for Disease Control (CDC), which found that 38 percent of men and 33 percent of women are now reporting that they are engaging in heterosexual anal sex. This is a considerable increase over a CDC study from the mid-1990s. Interestingly enough, the research plan was never updated to ask about how much female-to-male penetration is now going on. And we know that's increasing, too. For a more detailed look, read Em & Lo's New York Magazine article, The Bottom Line.
And part of the increase in female-to-male penetration maybe isn't so much inspired by the prevalent male-on-female anal sex in porn, but by... a willingness to experiment, to be more active in knowing what's pleasurable to the other person. Not all of the female-to-male is strap on play. There's also prostate massage in which a finger is inserted (gently, and with a generous, loving amount of lube, thank you) into the man's rectum and then used to massage his prostate. If you haven't given it a try,you'll find some instruction at Abby's Sexual Health. And, if you're more visual, you can always view this male prostate stimulation instructional video from our friends at Sex is Fun. It's an odd, almost scary 3D animation of how to manually stimulate the male prostate gland with either a finger or with an Aneros toy.
Speaking of anal, I have a video recommendation. Tristan Taormino, the Anal Ambassador, is anything but an underachiever. Now she's directing porn! And I just saw her second feature, Chemistry, Volume 2, and want to recommend it to you. This falls into the category of "gonzo porn" which, in this case, means it's like a porn version of "Real World" with 8 porn stars living in the same house for a couple of days... and doing whatever they want with whomever they want. Oh, and then talking about it to the camera. Anyway, the actors are nice looking, not fake, and the sex is varied and hot (including -- ta-dah! -- a scene at the end where the woman gives the guy a handjob while sliding a vibrator in and out of his ass). So, check that out.
And, finally, if you are trying to or thinking about trying to include male-to-female anal penetration in your sexual repertoire, check out these Anal Sex Tips from Women. These are true stories and recommendations from real women... and they should know.
Comments:
hey! anal sex is GOOD? now that’s a wonderful development. i’m glad to see the rest of the world is catching up to my standards. *grins*
i used to be the “sex guru” at my university, and i was floored by the number of girls (and guys) asking me if i had any tips for anal sex. sinc ei like it SO much, i had lots of tips, and was pretty enthusiastic for them.
it was neat to catch them in the hallways, or the cafeteira later in the month and wink and say, “everything goin smoothly?”
their blushing grins and happy nods were certainly reward enough!
~m.
Posted by ~m. on 03/12/07 at 11:48 AM
Isn’t it nice to know you were ahead of the curve? A trendsetter? A maverick? Maybe you need to share your tips with us as well.
Posted by Prospero on 03/12/07 at 12:09 PM
what kinda tips you want? most of my tips are pretty standard. use lube, go slow, and play around with your fingers first.
of course the added anatomy lesson (the fact that there are TWO rings of muscle to manipulate) was a total shock to some who couldn’t understand why with all their preparation, when he got in, it still “hurt”.
and i said, “got in the first ring, or the second?”
blinkblink… yep. two gates to navigate before you’re homefree, boys and girls. so if that first ring is nice and happy, don’t just go plunging in. you’ll probably get some ow.
now, the second thing is, if you like a little pain, and are turned on by it, don’t enderestimate the power of a slow steady push.
i’m not the only one who really likes it that way, and if you’re on top, you can sink down on it with just the right amount of “ow” to supercharge you. *grins* or, none at all!
actually, reverse cowgirl or spoons are the postions i highly recommend for the most succesful attempts at anal sex. letting the receiver do the pushing can mean an awful lot in gettting things going.
Posted by ~m. on 03/13/07 at 10:10 AM
Thanks for the advice! The two rings of muscle are different, not only in location (internal versus external), but also in muscle type and control. So… which ring is under your voluntary control (and presumably responds to the “relax and breathe out” idea) and which is contracting involuntarily?
Posted by Prospero on 03/13/07 at 11:35 AM
what about meeeeee?
<a href=“http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com/2007/03/prostate-play.html” rel=“nofollow”><a href=“http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com/2007/03/prostate-play.html” rel=“nofollow”>http://shayssexcolumn.blogspot.com/2007/03/prostate-play.html</a></a>Posted by Shay on 04/03/07 at 02:53 PM
It took me ages, but I love anal sex. And I’m with ~m. up there with the positions and letting the receiver do the pushing to get things started- aside form it letting that person control how fast and deep things go, it also lets them be in charge and makes it more comfortable on all levels.
I’m not positive, but I think the inner ring may be the involuntary one (an actual sphincter muscle) since the outer one does relax easily and there’s that visible porn “gape” you see some people have when they are really into it.
Posted by Debra on 04/16/07 at 12:08 AM
I’m not positive, but I think the inner ring may be the involuntary one (an actual sphincter muscle) since the outer one does relax easily and there’s that visible porn “gape” you see some people have when they are really into it.
Posted by Patrick Williford on 08/22/07 at 05:30 AM
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